and thanks for showing up
You've been given the unique opportunity to show up as an ally for someone in your life who has experienced trauma. It's both an honor and a privilege.
You'll be joining an ongoing conversation that they've been having with other survivors: acknowledging trauma, exchanging wisdom and designing justice.
But it's not just survivors that should have an ear in this room. As members of the human community, we all have a stake in responding to and preventing intimate violence and harm.
The conversation you'll be joining on November 17th is a chance to do just that: join the dialogue, ask questions, and learn how to help.
On this page you'll find resources to get you ready. Please review all the materials here so we're all on the same page on Tuesday morning. You'll find a general overview of what Consentric Circle conversations are all about, the structure of the conversation we have planned, our community norms and verbal practices, further learning resources and contact information to help you answer any questions that come up.
We are so excited to sit together, deepen our connections, enrich our understandings, and work together to design solutions.
OK, LEt's start with the basics
now for some specifics. how is the conversation going to be structured?
We want to give everyone a chance to share, and we'll take turns intentionally to do so.
We recognize an existing power dynamic that we are attempting to correct for. Often when survivors share their stories, those listening jump to advice and action, independent of the survivor and without understanding or consent. For many this can be overwhelming, and can inhibit further discourse.
So to account for this cultural tendency, we like to put in place a structure that centers survivors, emphasizes listening, validation and acknowledgement, and allots specific time for ally engagement.
These conversations have been taking place over the last 14 weeks. We've discussed how trauma impacted our brains and bodies, what kind of responses we encountered when we disclosed to friends, family, coworkers and community members, and what it was like for us attempting to pursue the available options for healing and justice.
Week to week, we gathered and shared resources for further learning and consideration. You can explore those resources too, before and after the conversation, to better your wisdom and allyship.